Can this be achieved? The opinions, thoughts, and ideas contained in the rest of this section are shocking revelations in both giving and receiving oral gratification. Okay, so maybe, it is common sense, but it surprises me how many people are lost when they venture into the southern regions of their mates.

Can you picture a deer caught in headlights? It has a clueless expression, stunned by the light or lack thereof, and an overwhelming feeling of complete and total confusion. This image could be the portrait of the ASM when he comes face to face with the magical pink folds of ecstasy. He is on a hormone high which further clouds his judgment, technique, and style. In the meantime, women are left wondering if the lapping object between their legs is a drooling Saint Bernard or seizing epileptic.

This situation appears to depict the most common complaint from women about their partners. There are only three reasons why the ASM fails or does not perform well in giving oral sex:

• He uses techniques that have worked on previous partners.
• He uses techniques that he heard will be successful.
• He has no idea what the hell he is doing.

All of these have a basic common theme that can be easily solved. It might be called ignorance, or stupidity, or lack of knowledge. In either choice of words, education and instruction are the keys to success.

This sounds simple, but there is another factor that needs to be addressed. Many women are taught that their fury areas are dirty and should only be inspected for medical or hygienic purposes. Now we have two people who really should not be participating in this sexual act. Neither person has much experience, nor do they know what, how, or why they are doing it. It is a scary situation, go ahead, ask a guy to get woman wet? He might piss on her.

So what can the female do to idiot proof the oral romantic encounter? I have listed a few suggestions below:

• Learn about your body. Use a mirror, take Polaroid's, or have your mate assist you while you inspect your intimate regions.
• Become comfortable with yourself. If you want to explore, compare or quench curiosity, purchase some adult magazines, videos, or visit an all-nude strip joint.
• Reference anatomy books. Everyone should know what plumbing they have, where the parts are, and the function they serve. If you have questions, you should consult every resource you have available, even the web.
• Masturbate, massage, or at the very least feel around to discover the sensations you enjoy most.
• Experiment with a vibrator, other sexual aid, or favorite vegetable. This is for the people who believe vibrators and sex toys should have a separate topic outside of masturbation. Isn't masturbation defined as sex with one's self?
• There still may be some women who feel uncomfortable performing any or all of these just to learn about their bodies. It is understandable to have a certain level of anxiety regarding intimate exploration. To overcome this, I would suggest to take your time, try to relax, and remember it is your body that you are learning about. There is nothing dirty about it.
  

Now, we have one educated woman who knows her body very well and a guy who is still fumbling with the basics. Can you see where this is leading? Yes, it is time pass this knowledge to your orally challenged mate. If you don't, he is going to continue working the magic he used on his last partner and introducing those great new techniques that every one is talking about. You will leave him and basically restart the cycle with another uneducated crotch lapping fool. Wouldn't it be nice to find a guy who knew his way around that area, who knew how to tease, and who could orally provide a totally earth shaking and mind-numbing orgasm?

The trick is how to teach him without crushing his ego. I wouldn't recommend pointing to your clitoris and screaming, "lick right there, dumb ass," that is not an alternative. You might want to try the subtle, yet direct approach, by softly saying, "yeah, right there," or "a little harder," or even the "oh God, yes. That is good." Or you could use the moaning technique. Every woman apparently knows this one. Where she changes the volume and tone of her moan to guide the man without really saying anything. This may work, but remember two things; his mind is under an extreme hormone overload and his head is covered. Add to that the television or music and basically you are feeding your privates to a canine impersonating, blind, and deaf mute.

After all this, I do believe there is one "best way" to show your mate how to enjoy your trimmed delicacy. It is called "ears." It is true; they aren't just for listening anymore. Ears can and should be used for steering. The majority of ASM's like it when a lady grabs a firm hold of the ears and points him in the right direction. To the ASM, it is not only educational, but also considerate and a huge turn-on. Some ASM's have prematurely blown their wads when confronted with such an assertive, independent, and educated woman. The premature topic is for another article.

Lets move to the other side of the relationship. Some women like to give head, others don't. It is a simple fact; there are talented ones out there and some who could use a bit of assistance. As ASM's, we know our members quit well. We have been playing with it for years, so we know what we like and how we like it to be treated.

The primary problems with women servicing men are the same as the ones mentioned for the men above. In any case, I am surprised at the lack of articles addressing technique and education on the topic of providing a decent blowjob. Apparently, this is a taboo topic that should not be talked about. That is bullshit. In any case, in the table below, I provide a few key suggestions for women who wish to improve their experience and the corresponding insights for the men.

If you still feel the need for more information, you might want to view porn videos focusing on fellatio or cunnilingus.

Still not Orally Satisfied
There may be situations, people, or relationships where oral pleasure appears to be impossible. Maybe your partner is not responsive to oral exploration, or both of you are in a rut, or maybe it just seems awkward? The following bullets hold the key to raising the level of your oral experiences. Some may appear redundant to the material above and they are here to reinforce the concepts.

Top Ten ways to Improve Oral Sex

1. Learn about yourself. Know your preferences.
2. Learn about your partner. Stop treating them like your previous conquests. This person is different, so tune into them.
3. Communicate amongst yourselves. Tell and show each other what, how, and why you enjoy certain pleasures.
4. Have respect. If you show respect, you will receive respect. It is unacceptable to coerce, force, or cross personal boundaries.
5. Limit expectations. Some people will reciprocate our favors, others won't. Some are good, and others are not so talented. No one is perfect and this is opportunity to teach and learn.
6. Savor the moments. Unless there is a fire in your building, there is no need to rush through oral foreplay. Spend the minutes wisely by exploring, touching, and tasting each other.
7. Have passion and intensity. It is not what you say, but in the way you say it. It is not what you do; it is how you do it.
8. Experiment and explore the opportunities. Be creative with new positions, techniques, toys, and even places to satisfy each other.
9. Have fun and laugh. There will be awkward moments and some could be considered embarrassing. Enjoy them all.
10. Relax. Everyone gets nervous. Remember, this is a natural wonderful experience that could change your perspective on life.

Well, there they are, the ten points to consider when you are exchanging oral pleasures. They are general guidelines, but you should be able to build on them and start receiving and/or giving the best oral experiences ever. Notice, much of the material relies on establishing communication, comfort levels, and trust. If I were you, I wouldn't expect too much from your new partner or random "one-night stands." It takes time to learn about someone, gain his or her trust, and be able to communicate comfortably. If you wish to learn more about the ASM, click here.

G-Spot: The famous Grafenberg spot is usually smaller than a quarter in size and resides about a fingers length inside the anterior wall of the vagina. It is best found using the index finger and the "come here" motion. It differs slightly in texture from the surrounding area. It may feel rough, fleshy, or ribbed. When stimulated properly, the G-spot has been known to provide high levels of orgasmic activity, even to the point of female ejaculation.

Erogenous Zones: Every man and woman has many erogenous zones. When stimulated, these areas of the body increase sexual awareness and arousal. Some of the more common are; back of the neck, lips, nipples, ear lobes, the underside of the wrists, lower abdomen, buttocks, genitalia, inner thighs, the back of knees, ankles, and feet.